Not following up on hurtful actions of confrontations to either correct the mistakes you’ve made or affirm the relationship is what allows conflict to cause damage to your relationship with your child. Remember that you’re not only resolving issues that you have with your child, but, more importantly you are setting the example of conflict resolution and teaching your child how to admit fault, assume a position of humility, and ask for forgiveness for any wrongdoing; all characteristics in a person’s life that are more caught than taught.
This is one of those precious times when your kids get a sample of your example. You could say things like:
– “I was wrong in the way I approached you, but I feel strongly about my message. Will you forgive me for that and allow us to talk about it further?”
Remember, all parents blow it, but unfortunately, not all of us were taught to repair by our own parents. You can change that generational pattern, starting today! The next time you see sadness or anger come over your child in response to something you’ve said or done… Take time to say you’re sorry. You’ll be glad you did!